A marriage announcement brings a barrage of excitement and attention. A divorce announcement brings exactly the same thing, but for entirely different reasons.
There are few things you’d rather not speak about more than news of your upcoming divorce. However, it’s virtually impossible to keep a divorce secret from those around you. Your family and friends will likely see the emotional stress you’re enduring. Your co-workers and employer may pick up on the tension from your private life in professional settings.
You’re likely to get questions from everyone in your social network. Although they mean well, you’ll have to ready yourself for what you intend to say and how they might respond.
Additionally, what you say and the forum you use to say it can affect your divorce case. An experienced divorce lawyer in Suwanee can guide you through going public about the end of your marriage.
WHO DO YOU TELL ABOUT YOUR DIVORCE FIRST?
It’s up to you who you’re going to tell about your divorce first. But once you talk, the word is going to spread. Even if you only tell a few people, it’ll be very hard for you to keep the matter quiet for very long – even if you ask them not to tell anyone. Therefore, it’s best to inform the people who will be directly affected before anyone else.
If you have children, tell them first, in an age-appropriate way. Even though your emotions are running high, refrain from saying anything negative about your spouse. This is a delicate time for your children, too and your goal is to help them make it through the divorce with their well being in tact. Even though it may be hard, it is usually best for you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse to speak to your children together. This shows them that they will not be put in the middle and that you will always both be their parents.
It is advisable to tell your close family members next, as you don’t want them finding out through word of mouth then adding additional stress by approaching you asking, “why didn’t you tell me?!”
TELLING FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES ABOUT YOUR DIVORCE
Telling friends, co-workers and employers that you’re going through a divorce can also be challenging. Naturally, people in your social circles will want details and you may be hesitant to say too much. This is especially true if you share friends, professional relationships or business dealings with your spouse. You don’t want news of your divorce to rattle investors, senior executives, business partners or anyone else who could negatively affect your professional reputation or high net worth.
When a conversation begins to go in a direction that you’re not ready for, having prepared responses will help you sidestep any uncomfortable or harmful exchanges. For example, you can say that while you appreciate a person’s concern for your personal situation, you’re not ready to go into details about the divorce yet, or, “out of respect for each other, my spouse and I have agreed to keep the details of our divorce private”.
HOW TO HANDLE SOCIAL MEDIA DURING DIVORCE
Keep in mind that Facebook posts, emails, and text messages can be used in divorce proceedings. If you’re feeling upset about something your spouse has done, avoid talking about it on social media or via mobile communications with friends or colleagues. If you need to let off some steam or get advice about how to handle a situation with your soon to be ex-spouse, seek help from a counselor or other professional where communication is privileged, or talk you’re your most immediate family in person (but never to, or in the presence of your children!) Or, you can always contact your divorce lawyer.
Having the right divorce lawyer on your side makes all the difference when it comes to protecting your interests and handling complex issues like child custody and property division. The legal team of Oxendine & Sauls, LLC has considerable experience with high-stakes divorce.