No one enjoys going through a divorce but children experience it on a different level.
Read on to find out how you can support your children when going through a divorce in Suwanee, GA.
1. Be honest with your children. Use age-appropriate language to explain what has happened and why the living arrangements have changed.
2. Make them feel safe and secure by assuring them that they you will continue to take care of them. This includes keeping their school, meals and social routines as consistent as possible.
3. Reassure them that even though their parents’ relationship has ended, you both love them unconditionally and that will never change. Let them know that even though living arrangements have change both parents will remain involved in their lives.
4. Give each child individual attention. This is important whether you are the custodial parent or have visitation rights. The time you have to spend with your child or children is invaluable.
5. Make sure your children know they are not the reason for your divorce. Sometimes kids will try to get their parents back together. Let them know that it is not their responsibility to save your marriage.
6. Resist spoiling your child to make yourself feel better about the pain your family is experiencing. You may be tempted to buy them extra toys or let them stay up later. Children need your love but they also need limits and consistency.
7. Don’t confuse roles. Your children shouldn’t take the role or responsibilities of your ex-spouse. Keep adult conversations between adults. Remain the grown-up and let your kids be kids.
8. Don’t make your child choose between parents. Avoid putting them in situations where they have to take sides or pass judgment on the other parent. This also includes saying hurtful things about your former spouse in front of your children.
9. Cooperate with your ex-spouse. You’ll both be your children’s parents forever. Work together for their health and well-being. This is important when it comes time for parent-teacher conferences, medical issues and family conversations.
10. Practice patience and understanding. Your children will have questions and may ask you many tough questions. Never shut them down and refuse to answer any questions, but also be careful not to tell them too much, or share adult details. The children will benefit greatly from your compassion. Also remember to be compassionate with yourself.
Divorce is not easy but you and your children can not only survive it, you can learn from it and even strengthen your relationship during the process.
The experienced attorneys at Oxendine & Sauls, LP are here to help you through this challenging time in your life.